Wednesday, October 3, 2007
Halle Berry on Marriage
We live in a culture that greatly devalues marriage. No surprise there. Still, I am depressed as a pastor seeing the inroads this low view has made into the church and among Christians in general. Many a young lady makes it clear that the 'normal' order of events in life is sex, baby, and if it is convenient, marriage. But the last part is certainly optional.
As it appears to be for the very popular Halle Berry. After 30+ negative tests she is now celebrating her new pregnancy with French-Canadian model Gabriel Aubry. Yet is marriage just as important? No. She has been married twice prior, with her unions lasting no more 5 years in either case. Thus, she sees no desire to marry again. "I feel more married, in a way, than I ever have in two marriages before," she said to Oprah. "He really understands the spiritual connection is so much more important than the paper and the pomp and circumstance and the ceremony."
While I agree that marriage is not defined by the paper or the ceremony, per se, I sense that Miss Berry totally misses the essence of marriage. But then again, she is not at all bound by God's will in this. And she obviously does not understand the importance of commitment and servanthood. It's her decision to have a mate and a baby. It's really all about her. That's about it. And sadly Miss Berry is all too typical of many a young woman in the church today. I would like to think I am wrong, but so often this is all I encounter.....