So, the best way to avoid finding yourself in a disappointing church is to limit your involvement.
Only go to worship.
Be friendly, but don't make friends.
Sing, clap and give a little money.
Stay at the edges.You have probably noticed, if you compare worship attendance with the totality of those showing up for anything else, that many Americans have already figured this out.
The rest of the article is good and ought to be read by all church leaders, pastors and lay.
You can read the article here.